Your World Isn't Falling Apart, It's Falling Into Place

If You Choose To BElieve 

If you've been following for a bit, you know I talked about how I was bulldozed last year…and I'm now coming out of the rubble! Spurred on by this period of life from 35 to 55 (and apparently my BEauties, for the rest of your lives after that) which a woman goes through Peri Menopause. I resisted her, I raged against her, I fought her, bullied her, told her she was crazy, stifled her until none of that worked and so…I BEfriended her. And, damn, is she a good friend. 

She showed me parts of my life I didn't love, but wasn't changing immediately. She forced me to think and do things for myself…instead of everything or everyone else. She taught me that unless I'm putting my own self-care first and foremost, no one else gets to experience the BEst parts of me. She taught me how to say "Hell to the NO", and also to not settle for "Yes, sure, that's ok" instead of "Hell Freaking YES." She is bringing out more Goddess energy…which I've craved and she's made me a better friend, lover, boss and most importantly…a better advocate for ME. 

She's given me the thirst to find allllll kinds of resources to live my best life for the rest of my 40's and BEyond. She has taught me soooooo much AND she's enabling me to reach my community in a completely different way. She's still teaching me, daily, she's still testing me, she's still taunting me, she's still in my head talking and yapping, but I'm BEfriending her instead of resisting her. I'm loving on her instead of fighting her. I'm embracing her instead of pushing her away.

Oh, she's a BEast. But that's what we are. Incredible, loving, daring, bold, BEastly BEauties. And as I pour through countless emails and talk to many women, it feels like our world's are falling a part. And the reality is that, in a way, they are. 

A world that is no longer viable for us. A world that can no longer meet our needs. A world where we question our careers, relationships, homes, safety nets, friendships, routines and more. So we're creating a new world, and that is all falling into place. 

(And PS. if I'm sounding rather chipper and hopeful and you're reading this in a state of rage - it's ok, this is a damn rollercoaster and I'm on it too so tomorrow I may be crying about this instead!)

But, what I've realized through my friendship with Peri, is that she's taking a Princess & making her a Queen. That's what women who have moved out of Peri have become, that's what those of us going through this (some of us will BE in Princess phase for over 10 years!) a special period of our lives. We are BEcoming. More on that another time. So embrace your Peri, BEfriend her.